Rotten Root of an Infertile Culture

My latest piece for Ethika Politika:

The Catechism of the Catholic Church teaches that sin includes any activity that brings death to the body, or death to the soul.

Increased utilization of third party reproductive technologies and our current infertility epidemic are deeply tied to sin. The birth dearth is primarily a result of the marriage decline. The marriage decline is a result of a profound absence in virtues and character development—resulting in a culture in which people can’t trust themselves and can’t trust the opposite sex to meet the basic demands of a marriage: commitment, fidelity, and cooperation. We don’t need more sexual education, we need more virtues education.

I recently was confronted about my Catholic conversion by a teenager whom I’ve known for years. “You’re not going to force your religion on your kids, are you?” he chided. I responded defensively, “I plan on at least giving my children the gift of a moral education—which the Church expertly provides.” From there began a conversation about whether there was an absolute truth or not. My teenage friend announced that there is no such thing: “morality is arbitrary … Good and bad means different things for different people in different circumstances.” Later in the conversation, the topic of children came up. I asked him, “How old do you think you’re going to be when you get married and have kids?” “I’m not sure I want to have kids,” he said.

I’m not sure I want to have kids.

His response shocked me greatly, because I’ve known him for years and I know that he is great with kids and since early childhood he has regularly declared his desire to eventually be a dad. Were his first remarks regarding truth related to this change in desire for children? I think they are.

David Brooks of the New York Times wrote a column in 2011addressing a researched study that found that young Americans lack categories and vocabulary on matters of “right and wrong, moral dilemmas, and the meaning of life”:

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One thought on “Rotten Root of an Infertile Culture

  1. Greg says:

    Being moral is something that can come from being religious but it’s not necessary for everyone. I’m a former Catholic that is now an atheist. I don’t need a higher power to make me think how my actions can impact others. I don’t need a higher power to tell me right from wrong. But that’s me and what works for me. For other people religion works. So I don’t believe there is one path to live morally.

    Two important concepts are missed in this piece. The first and it is something that those who oppose third party reproduction and non biological families miss is that by placing such a high value on becoming a parent that those who don’t want to or are unable to have children are devalued members of society. By doing that it encourages feelings of inadequacy among the childless. This is what drives people to alternative ways to become parents to get their value in society increased to the level of everyone else. The so called feeling of “entitlement” to a child is inadequacy in reality.

    People who have children continue to be blind to how they are the problem. The are unaware how they have turned the childless into a subservient class of people. They use this class of people to fund their children’s education, their service in the work place when they have to tend to their children and then when these people need their support are no where to be found. People with children take a lot from society but give back next to nothing. If we want to see a culture change for the better people with children need to contribute more to society and not devalue and use the childless as they currently do.

    The second concept is the myth that getting married young and trying to have children in your 20’s will guarantee a child for that couple. There is this myth thrown out by anti infertility and anti non biological family groups that the majority of infertility is caused by delaying attempts to have children (classic victim blaming). The reality is that there are many causes of infertility but the majority of them are due to environmental factors. There are many couples getting married young who experience infertility in their 20’s. This segment of the infertile population is conveniently ignored by those groups as it rips a part their shallow arguments that victim blame.

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